What do you do…

When you explode into a fury of hurt and hatred at your alcoholic mother, wrestling a bottle of wine from her hands to pore it down the sink and then taking her wine glass shattering it in the sink, picking up the children and leaving in a a fit of racking sobs?

What do you do when she calls, yelling at you for “what you’ve done” in regards to said glass in the sink?

What do you do when you tell her all that has been building up since the age of remembrance and all she says is “I don’t understand where you are coming from”?

What do you do when you say, as long as she is drinking she will no longer see you or your children?

What do you do, when you try to call your father to tell him all that has been going on but can’t go through with it because you don’t know what to say and because everytime you try you sob violently?

I don’t know what to do, but this is my life

and I just can’t take it anymore….

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16 thoughts on “What do you do…”

  1. Oh honey, I am so so sorry. (((((((((hugs))))))))))))) I wish I could do something. But you and your mom are in my prayers. For what it’s worth, I think you did the right thing and should not subject yourself (and espec your kids) to that environment, and maybe it will take that to wake your mom up. I’m so sorry. I’m thinking of you!!


  2. Oh my gosh Veronica! I wish I had the right thing to say right now. I hope that something can get through to her. Addiction is such an evil thing. I’m thinking of you!


  3. Oh Veronica I am so sorry. 😦 I will be praying for you, I am praying for some many people due to alcoholism that it’s unbelieveable. I don’t know if you read my last post or not but it’s effecting our household as well. I’m beginning to notice that the sight of alchol just makes me sick to my stomach anymore when I think of what it does to families. Many hugs to you, I’m sorry. ((HUGS))


  4. I can totally relate to that. Sounds exactly like my upbringing and it does suck. I think you did the right thing though. I hope your mom starts seeing the hurt and pain its causing you and your family.

    I’m here if you want to chat…Hugs!


  5. ((HUGS)) I am so sorry sweety.. drinking is such a horrible thing that just ruins people, not just the ones drinking but the ones around.. I am so sorry sweety, ((HUGS)) I’ll be praying for you!


  6. My father is an alcoholic. He was abusive, and brutal to all of us while I was growing up. When I had Taylor I vowed he would have VERY little contact with my children as I did not want them to experience what I did.

    One night he came into my mom’s house, she had gone out to help my sister with a flat, and he was intoxicated. He tried to hit me and my son ran into the kitchen at the exact moment and I picked him up. It was horrific and nothing I wanted to have happen again. My husband was LIVID and called my dad yelling at him to never ever see us again.

    I know where you are coming from hon, but sadly I don’t have any answers for you, except to tell you that you need to do what is best for you and the girls and your family. I had very little contact with my dad.

    Thankfully he stopped drinking in 1999. I will pray for your mom too, that she can see what she is doing to you, to the girls, to everyone around her, not to mention herself.


  7. The only there is to do- is pray.
    Do what’s best for you and your family, and pray for your mom.

    I hope things get better and she’ll open her eyes.


  8. oh (((((((V)))))) I’m so sorry to hear this! I think it is best to not take the girls around it. Maybe taht, in itself, will help her see she needs help. I will pray for you, for your mom, for your family! ((hugs))


  9. Oh Veronica, my heart breaks for you & your family. 😦
    I’m so sorry you’re going thru this with your mom.


  10. Oh Veronica, I’m so sorry to hear you having to deal with this stress! Keep strong and know you have a lot of people who care and are praying for you!((((((hugs)))))))


  11. I have lived that scenario Hon, many times. Only it wasn’t my mom, it was James. I would really recommend you go to ALANON. I will say lots of prayers for you sweetie, I am here for you! {{{HUGS}}}


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